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Title: a few questions
Post by: antthecat on March 24, 2009, 22:54:45 PM
i need help with the first question and advice with the second question.

1) a few terms eg FYP, IMO. im not too sure what these mean so can someone please explain(ive been on here for a while and a couple i still cant work out)

2) this is a perculiar one, im having a bit of trouble with my partner, for some reason every time i play poker she has a hissy fit. has anyone got any advice or words of wisdom to help with this situation.

please help as both items are bugging me

p.s sorry about last post in the wcoap discussion 5 months waiting, it was a moment of madness, sorry again
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: duke3016 on March 24, 2009, 22:56:26 PM
Point one is easy Kinfishy will be along with a glossary

Point two is IMO FWIW easy as well and someone will FMP and FYP with the answer ldo
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: antthecat on March 24, 2009, 22:57:57 PM
cheers duke.
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: Chipaccrual on March 24, 2009, 23:07:40 PM
lol @ The Duke

BTW, IMO FWIW, he"s right on both questions.

YW
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: antthecat on March 24, 2009, 23:15:34 PM
i have not a clue what you are on about, sounds brilliant advice though never the less
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: duke3016 on March 24, 2009, 23:18:49 PM
In seriousness the second one is difficult, however nothing is more important than family, If you are serious about the girl poker takes back seat - if you"re not then it wasn"t meant to be in the first place.

Although I am not really one to give advice in that dept.
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: antthecat on March 24, 2009, 23:27:03 PM
cheers, poker usually does take a back seat(bar friday nights home game) but i told her about the wcoap main event and she did not look too pleased, i did explain that i dont play as much and i really wanted to play in the main event. oh well cant please everyone lol
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: Zanshin on March 25, 2009, 00:41:35 AM
lol


lol ?








;)
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: rubertoe on March 25, 2009, 07:05:13 AM

In seriousness the second one is difficult, however nothing is more important than family, If you are serious about the girl poker takes back seat - if you"re not then it wasn"t meant to be in the first place.

Although I am not really one to give advice in that dept.

cheers, poker usually does take a back seat(bar friday nights home game) but i told her about the wcoap main event and she did not look too pleased, i did explain that i dont play as much and i really wanted to play in the main event. oh well cant please everyone lol


IMO - (in my Opinion) FWIW - for what its Worth - There has to be a compromise - Duke is right Family Should always come first - but if the Girlie Complains too much then you need to do 1 of two things -

1 - get her playing -

2 - win a load of dough and the treat her to shoes, handbag, dress etc etc - it is amazing what spending a bit of poker winnings on your other-half for making them and you feel better about the hours put in at the table!

PS i haven"t worked out FYP yet either
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: AMRN on March 25, 2009, 07:59:29 AM


In seriousness the second one is difficult, however nothing is more important than family, If you are serious about the girl poker takes back seat - if you"re not then it wasn"t meant to be in the first place.

Although I am not really one to give advice in that dept.

cheers, poker usually does take a back seat(bar friday nights home game) but i told her about the wcoap main event and she did not look too pleased, i did explain that i dont play as much and i really wanted to play in the main event. oh well cant please everyone lol


IMO - (in my Opinion) FWIW - for what its Worth - There has to be a compromise - Duke is right Family Should always come first - but if the Girlie Complains too much then you need to do 1 of two things -

1 - get her playing -

2 - win a load of dough and the treat her to shoes, handbag, dress etc etc - it is amazing what spending a bit of poker winnings on your other-half for making them and you feel better about the days put in at the table!

PS i haven"t worked out FYP yet either


FYP
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: Baldus New on March 25, 2009, 10:20:22 AM
Ant, the problem to point two lies in the venue.

If we were in London again, with a 2pm start, you could play the Poker*, take her for a nice meal, then catch a show with a few drinks after and still be back at your hotel room in time for Dancing On Ice or whatever other reality dross is on.

Then everyone would be happy  ;D

Unfortunately it would appear that Nottingham does not hold the same appeal for her. (Can"t understand why!!!!  ;))

(*Disclaimer - This is no way intended as a slur on your Poker playing ability but is based upon your past APAT performances. It should be noted that game duration times can go up aswell as down)
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: Swinebag on March 25, 2009, 10:28:56 AM
My problem with point 2 is that my better half can take it personally when I play poker.

"why are you playing poker when you could be playing with me?" is a standard question that is particularly difficult to field.

I find its a case of defining it as an interest/hobby, similar to 5-a-side. I try and make a lot of time for the wife and try and explain that poker whilst being important to me is not as important as her, but at the end of the day i need to have a variety of interests. I"d love to share as many of these interests as possible with her, but there does come a point where our interests differ. she likes shopping and i hate it but i"ll still go shopping with her.

Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: janc on March 25, 2009, 10:31:44 AM
Question 2 is simple just keep saying "yes Dear"
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: Bainn on March 25, 2009, 11:21:47 AM

Question 2 is simple just keep saying "yes Dear"


Never!

That way leads to madness.........
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: WarBwastardo on March 25, 2009, 11:49:56 AM
Girlfriends are not family.  You can choose them, you can"t choose family.  Ask her why she gets so p*ssed off with the idea of you enjoying yourself.  
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: Swinebag on March 25, 2009, 12:01:21 PM

Ask her why she gets so p*ssed off with the idea of you enjoying yourself. 


I basically said the same thing without being this harsh
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: Eck on March 25, 2009, 12:09:35 PM

Ask her why she gets so p*ssed off with the idea of you enjoying yourself. 


yep please try this, let me know how you get on  ;)
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: Jon MW on March 25, 2009, 12:10:37 PM

My problem with point 2 is that my better half can take it personally when I play poker.

"why are you playing poker when you could be playing with me?" is a standard question that is particularly difficult to field.

...


If I was involved with someone I wouldn"t be playing poker, you lot are clearly just not attentive enough to your other halves and should be ashamed of yourselves imo.


In reply to the OP, does she know Nottingham at all?

FWIW it"s known for being a really good place for shopping. This might help as long as you win enough to fund it. :D
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: Swinebag on March 25, 2009, 12:33:51 PM
ATEOTD

A good score in a tourney and a subsequent present or holiday paid from it will no doubt turn other halves round.
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: antthecat on March 25, 2009, 12:46:22 PM
right got fwiw, it means for what its worth but still stuck with a few, thankfully the dragon(se wont be reading this) will not be coming with me to nottingham but every time i tell her im playing or played the night before she has a whinge regardless of the fact last time i played and cashed huge i paid for a slap up meal at a nice resturant.  i have tried to talk her around and play a little but she is so set that she wont learn the game and cant work out why i get exited about it, it is a pain in the rear
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: deanp27 on March 25, 2009, 12:52:30 PM
teach her how to play poker ldo - hth
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: antthecat on March 25, 2009, 13:18:52 PM
she wont learn. this is the annoying bit, why moan when she has no background knowledge or reason to moan
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: Eck on March 25, 2009, 14:59:47 PM

the fact last time i played and cashed huge i paid for a slap up meal


Was that with lashings of ice-cream? I always wondered what happened to Enid Blyton  ;).

Not trying to be cheeky but if a huge cash pays for a meal then I would maybe side with the dragon.
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: kinboshi on March 25, 2009, 15:17:59 PM


the fact last time i played and cashed huge i paid for a slap up meal


Was that with lashings of ice-cream? I always wondered what happened to Enid Blyton  ;).

Not trying to be cheeky but if a huge cash pays for a meal then I would maybe side with the dragon.


He got her large fries FFS!!  

MBSFN
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: antthecat on March 25, 2009, 22:24:50 PM
i only used £50 of my last win of £200 to treat her to a posh meal, not mcdonalds(bloody wished i had, great idea kinboshi).

i had a talk this evening and fell on deaf ears, how does everyone else cope or is everyones partner ok with this game, i wish mine was
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: duke3016 on March 25, 2009, 22:30:52 PM

i only used £50 of my last win of £200 to treat her to a posh meal, not mcdonalds(bloody wished i had, great idea kinboshi).

i had a talk this evening and fell on deaf ears, how does everyone else cope or is everyones partner ok with this game, i wish mine was


Mines fine -- maybe because she is now married to someone else  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: rubertoe on March 26, 2009, 06:56:27 AM


i only used £50 of my last win of £200 to treat her to a posh meal, not mcdonalds(bloody wished i had, great idea kinboshi).

i had a talk this evening and fell on deaf ears, how does everyone else cope or is everyones partner ok with this game, i wish mine was


Mines fine -- maybe because she is now married to someone else  ;D ;D ;D


Mine is Not fine with it either Ant... Dont worry i am certain that you are not Alone with this problem... but you are still able to have a life of your own
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: AMRN on March 26, 2009, 08:36:59 AM
we have a rule in our house - I don"t moan about the constant bloody soap on our TV every night, and she says not a word about my laptop being out every night.  Best bit is, if I play the Sky Open, she always sits and watches with me on Sky865.

If I win live, I put 50% back into bankroll, and the other 50% into housekeeping.  My online play is now all about trying to make £15k before end of 2009 to take my kids to DisneyWorld before my daughter finally loses her sight..... hence the missus has no problem with my 5 hours per night addiction.



Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: Honeybadg on March 26, 2009, 10:32:35 AM
... our house rules are pretty similar ... it is amazing how much Living TV I have watched over the last year ...

The only things I veto are televised screaming matches (Wife Swap etc ...)

She controls the TV ... I play poker ... decent wins trigger dinners out ...

Last year paid legal fees on buying my house etc ... etc ...

... so I guess next "big" win would pay for a holiday.

Though at the moment trying to fund a trip to Vegas for the $1,000 NL event (May 30th start) - then likely meet Jeanie in New York or somewhere ...

Win and be generous ... I guess ....

L
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: nosey-p on March 26, 2009, 11:28:10 AM
My better half is fine with it has long as she can have all my winnings, it's strange but I have not won for age's   ;)
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: deanp27 on March 26, 2009, 12:45:33 PM
just stay single like me
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: bigredders on March 26, 2009, 13:15:53 PM

just stay single like me


this!

my girlfriend doesn"t like me playing because she thinks i will become addicted and end up in a gutter owing thousands to loan sharks!....i tought her how to play but guess what, she became addicted on my account! i try and explain that her shopping habits can become an addiction as much as anything can, show her my bankroll management and explain to her that it is my main hobby, it doesn"t work!

your not on your own trust me!
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: coprey on March 26, 2009, 14:24:26 PM


2) this is a perculiar one, im having a bit of trouble with my partner, for some reason every time i play poker she has a hissy fit. has anyone got any advice or words of wisdom to help with this situation.



Perhaps she is unhappy in her relationship with you and this is the only way she can find to express it.

Consider counselling or a new girlfriend?
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: AMRN on March 26, 2009, 16:36:37 PM
My family accept my hours of play as they know I can make money at it. I have to smile at the image others have though..... "So Steve, what do you do for a hobby outside of work?".... "I play poker"..... and then you can see the thought processes kicking in...... "OMG this guy must be an alcoholic who is risking his income and the house his wife and kids live in. What a bad future for his family".  They ask how much I lose every month..... hmmm, what a cheek!!

gotta laugh.
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: rubertoe on March 26, 2009, 16:55:11 PM

My family accept my hours of play as they know I can make money at it. I have to smile at the image others have though..... "So Steve, what do you do for a hobby outside of work?".... "I play poker"..... and then you can see the thought processes kicking in...... "OMG this guy must be an alcoholic who is risking his income and the house his wife and kids live in. What a bad future for his family".  They ask how much I lose every month..... hmmm, what a cheek!!

gotta laugh.


Gotta love the Line - "i play Poker" says A "oh you must be an addictive gambler - make sure that you dont loose your house" says B

Gotta love non poker players views on poker players - they think that were all 2nd class citizens on a par with Crack Addicts and Muggers and that we will all end up potless and/ or homeless
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: CrizzyConnor on March 26, 2009, 17:23:26 PM
I just tell wife #1 to STFU and get back in her cage with the rest of the hareem before I get the padlock out again...

(http://www.brisbanetimes.com.au/ffximage/peta_wideweb__470x312,2.jpg)



:o Just kidding, please don"t shoot :D

Fotunately the missus doesn"t moan too much these days, luckily I went on a winning streak at the local casino around 6 months ago and cashed 5 out of 6 visits and used this as evidence in my argument that poker isn"t just luck. lololololol. Now she just tells me to stop moaning about "bad beats" - whenever I"ve just been knocked out of a tournament online she looks at me and tells me she doesn"t want to hear the story and that I"m as bad as that "idiot on the TV" that she loathes (Phil Hellmuth), hahahahaha.

For the record - FYP still has me scratching my head  :-\
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: antthecat on March 26, 2009, 21:11:15 PM
im sorry if this question touches anyones raw nerve, i just felt alone as all my other mates partners are willing them to go out and play where i am getting grief, i will have to learn how to switch off and stop listening but appear to be listening intently.

can someone please tell me what imo and fyp mean please as these are bugging me.
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: Chipaccrual on March 26, 2009, 21:13:02 PM
I"ll put you out of your misery (with the abbreviations anyway)

Fixed Your Post

In My Opinion

;D
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: kinboshi on March 27, 2009, 10:36:37 AM
You don"t to hear my advice.
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: Swinebag on March 27, 2009, 11:12:55 AM

I"ll put you out of your misery (with the abbreviations anyway)

Fixed Your Post

In My Opinion

;D


QFT
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: Chipaccrual on March 27, 2009, 11:35:56 AM


I"ll put you out of your misery (with the abbreviations anyway)

Fixed Your Post

In My Opinion

;D


QFT


Rob,

You are taking the acronyms to a whole new level.   ;D
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: kinboshi on March 27, 2009, 12:07:02 PM



I"ll put you out of your misery (with the abbreviations anyway)

Fixed Your Post

In My Opinion

;D


QFT


Rob,

You are taking the acronyms to a whole new level.   ;D


MBSFN to be a teacher with all that spare time.
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: mike saban on March 27, 2009, 12:09:43 PM
This will help you with some of the acronyms

http://www.gaarde.org/acronyms/

Me and the wife rarely argue about playing poker, as she introduced me to the game, just everything else  ;D
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: Swinebag on March 27, 2009, 13:40:11 PM
MBSFN - isn"t there but I figured it out

Ido - isn"t there either, any clues??
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: mike saban on March 27, 2009, 14:04:05 PM

MBSFN - isn"t there but I figured it out

Ido - isn"t there either, any clues??


no, I dont know those 2 either  ???
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: kinboshi on March 27, 2009, 14:16:49 PM

MBSFN - isn"t there but I figured it out

Ido - isn"t there either, any clues??



It"s LDO, ldo.

Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: Chipaccrual on March 27, 2009, 14:29:26 PM


MBSFN - isn"t there but I figured it out

Ido - isn"t there either, any clues??



It"s LDO, ldo.




LMFAO
Title: Re: a few questions
Post by: Laxie on March 27, 2009, 14:39:28 PM
LDO - Like duh, obviously (or something along those lines)

MBSFN - Must be so f***ing nice